Reframing NLP | Learn the Reframing NLP Techniques

Reframing NLP | Learn the Reframing NLP Techniques


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Reframing is one of the most effective NLP Techniques for altering your mind and behaviour. Look at the blue framed picture above and look at the squint grey lines that are running horizontally across the picture. Now look closer.

Those grey lines running across the picture are not squint. They are in fact straight. The rows of black and white squares, as well as the grey lines in between, are all parallel.

The boxes vertical zigzag pattern disrupts our horizontal perception of the picture.

This shows us that it is our perception that affects our version of reality.

  • Reframing NLP helps identify unwanted behaviour
  • Learn how to effectively communicate with yourself and understand the purpose of these behaviours
  • Find additional, more positive, ways to achieve the same outcome
  • Reach a new understanding of how your thought processes operate and how they try to assist you
  • Reduce your stress levels and maintain control over your thoughts, your emotions and your feelings

The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.

Reframing NLP is a fantastic Neuro Linguistic Programming technique that challenges how we perceive situations in our life. Reframing shows us, that the experiences we have in our lives are not reality, they are our interpretation of reality.

Your mind creates your reality and what is one thing to one person, can be something quite different to another

Lets look at an example.


This is an old Chinese Taoist story about an old farmer in a poor, remote country village!

This farmer was considered to be well off, as he owned a horse for which he used for transport and for ploughing his fields.

One day his horse ran away. All of his neighbours exclaimed at how terrible this was, but the farmer simply said, “Maybe”.

A few days later the horse returned and brought two wild horses with it. The neighbours all rejoiced at his good fortune, but the farmer just said, “Maybe”.

The next day the farmers son tried to ride one of the wild horses and the horse threw him up in the air and broke his leg. The neighbours all offered their sympathy for his sons misfortune, but the farmer again said, “Maybe”.

The next week, conscription officers came into his village to take young men for the army. They rejected the old farmers son because of his broken leg. When the neighbours told him how lucky he was, the wise old farmer replied, “Maybe”.


So what does this old Taoist story mean?

This story shows us that the meaning of any event depends upon how you choose to look at it, or how you choose to frame it.

The story and the event stays the same, however by changing the frame around the event, you give it a whole new meaning

This is what is known as reframing. Any event can be given a different meaning, depending on the context you give that event, and that meaning will dictate how we react and feel, rather than the actual experience itself.

You also have the ability to take any situation or experience and change it’s meaning.


Governments and advertising agencies use reframing all the time!

Reframing NLP is also a clever trick that is used by both politicians and advertisers in order to distract your attention away from one aspect and focus it on another.

Such as, you may hear a politician say, 10 soldiers were killed today, however we have now secured the area and brought peace to the town. Clearly, the politician is taking a regrettable situation and reframing it with one that appears more positive.

Similarly, an advertiser may attempt to emotionally persuade you of the fat burning capabilities of a new exercise machine, while distracting your mind from the extortionate price.

Another form of natural reframing that you may have had experience of is laughing at a situation that at the time, years ago, was quite serious, however now that time has passed, you can see it in a more humorous light. This is your mind simply reframing this past event and now viewing it from a different perspective.


Take any negative memory in your life and reframe it!

  • Instead of focusing on the negative aspect, try to see what positive effect it has had upon you

  • A positive can be taken from any negative experience

This is the NLP principle that all behaviour has a positive intent and finding the positive intention of a behaviour is a form of NLP reframing.

Generally, you don’t intend to hurt people or harm them with your words or actions, even if the effect is different.

Where you or someone else did intend harm to another, there is still a positive intention for the self, that is to feel safe, powerful, in control, or to prevent the person doing something again or as a punishment. The sooner you believe that to be true, the sooner you can take control of your life’s journey and your eventual destination.

Reframing gives you more control over your life by making you aware of how your own mind creates your reality.

If you have the ability to change the meaning of any situation, you can turn a dis-empowering feeling into an empowering feeling, a demotivating feeling into a motivating one and a painful experience into a pleasurable one.


The NLP Reframing technique explained!


The NLP Reframing technique explained!

As this website is all about changing you, for the better, how can we use reframing NLP to bring negative aspects of yourself into a more positive light. There exists a “Six Step Reframe NLP Technique” that i will share with you now. This will help you to alter your perception of the events in your life, past and present.

STEP.1 – Identify a troubling behaviour or response, something you would rather not do or feel.

STEP.2 – Establish communication with the part creating the unwanted behaviour or response. Ask if it would be willing to communicate consciously. This communication might be a sensation somewhere in their/your body, a picture, voice or sound.

When you get a signal, first thank the part for responding. When we have fought against particular behaviours within our minds, they can feel a sense of alienation from you, so it’s useful to be polite and this acts as a means of programming what is essentially a part of your brain.

STEP.3 – Find the positive intention. Ask the part “What do you want? What positive thing are you trying to do for me? The key here is to recognize the difference between the parts intention and the way it is going about getting it.

Have you ever tried to be helpful and the person misunderstood your intention and got annoyed? How does it make you feel? Are you likely to help a second time?

Our unconscious parts feel the same. Here they are doing the best they can to achieve something for you. Is there thanks or even appreciation? We might have a long history of fighting and shaming this response.

If a neighbour repeatedly told you what a worthless lazy bum you were for not cutting your gardens grass more often, would it inspire you to cut the lawn? I have no idea why many of us think shaming works to change behaviour  It doesn’t work for me.

Assuming that this aspect of self has a positive intention can create rapport and therefore makes it more willing to cooperate.

STEP.4 – Ask for help from their/your creative part to create three alternative ways to get the intended outcome.

STEP.5 – Have the part evaluate these new choices. Are they acceptable? Will they be as good as or better than the previous behaviour? It needs to be willing to try them out for the next month or longer if appropriate.

The key here is negotiation. If the part with the unwanted behaviour is not happy with these alternatives, it is unlikely to give them a go. If you have ever agreed to something because you were bullied into it, you’ll know how important willing commitment is.

When the alternatives are not acceptable, go back to step 4 for better choices.

STEP.6 – Check for objections with other parts of ourselves. When we change behaviours  we can affect other people as well as aspects of ourselves. Even changes we think are fabulous have unintended consequences. We get our new car, but our golf clubs won’t fit in the boot.

If there are objections, put them through the same process from step 2 – what is the positive intention etc?


You have the power to change your mind!

You cant change the past. And you cant always control events in the present or the future events still to come. However you can always change how you choose to look at them both. You can change your perception of something and thereby change your experience of it. Because it’s your perception that creates your reality.

That’s it for the Reframing NLP techniques. I hope you can make good use of it.


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If you liked this article you may also like my article on the  NLP Fast Phobia Cure and the Anchoring NLP Technique. Both are designed to help you improve your state of mind and find balance and harmony within.

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